Identity…I’m Just Me!
I’m just me. I’m not perfect, but I am me. This meme/picture says a lot. One of the issues the characters are dealing with in the new book, Imperfections, is identity. Who they are, what they want in life, and how to achieve it.
As a child, when growing up in an abusive situation, it is hard to see yourself as anything but a victim. It is hard to overcome the negative statements you have been told your whole life. It is even harder to move forward in a healthy manner.
Hard, but not impossible. It takes a lot of work and will power. And a really good therapist.
We tend to repeat the past. Our self-esteem is shot to pieces. We think so little of ourselves. For many people, like us, entering abusive relationships in the future happens. We make decisions which impact us negatively. We continue to self-sabotage with our thinking, decisions, and coping skills.
But for healing to take place, we must change the tapes in our head. We must start to think positive about ourselves. We cannot change the past, but we control our futures. One way to do this is to grab a notebook and a pen. Every time you have a negative thought, write it down. And then write down a positive statement to counteract the negative one. Read it over again as needed. Read it aloud. Over time your thinking can change to more positive statements you hear in your head.
It is up to us to change our futures. It is our responsibility to move forward. And it is time we learn to accept us as we are, imperfections and all! What are you doing to move forward, heal, and accept yourself?
A. G. Ballard